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For me, simply feeling gratitude is a half-measure.

I feel grateful every day for my family, my health and my husband. But I find that my actions are not always in alignment with this gratitude.

This year, I have had no major health issues. But I slacked off exercising and eating healthy.

My family has been wonderful. And while I showed up for emergencies, I haven’t been attentive in small ways to show them how much I appreciate them.

My husband has been a rock. But I often (confession time) overwork, and he gets the short end of the stick with my attention and energy.

“Unexpressed gratitude communicates ingratitude.” – Andy Stanley

Simply feeling gratitude is not enough for me, so I’m focusing on expressing my gratitude through action. Are you with me?

Let’s not wait for an emergency to show our families how much we care. Call them, connect with them while they’re here and healthy.

Let’s not just write in a gratitude journal that we’re grateful for our health. Go exercise.

Let’s not settle for just feeling appreciation for our spouse. Knock off work early (or simply on time) while you still have energy to be present to focus on them.

Why don’t you post your gratitude in action commitment here? We’ll meet back here next year, and find out how it went!

Heads up! There’s a surprise ending ahead… While my month working from Prague was a big bold daring move, there was a BIG difference between the touristy high points and the day-to-day reality of working in a foreign country. Here is a brief reflection of lessons from my trip, and the unexpected aha moment in the end.

Working abroad for a month instead of working from home…

Sounds pretty glamorous, right?

Yes, it’s an absolute thrill and it looks super cool on social media. But it is challenging.

Everything takes longer than expected.

Things look kind of the same on the surface, but I discovered that everything was either a little different, or a LOT different than expected.

To accomplish anything, I had to employ entirely different skills. Ones that – even though I thought I was prepared – I didn’t even know I needed.

Some of the things that I expected would be easy, were difficult. And some of the things I expected would be difficult, were easy.

After a while, I figured out that getting comfortable with the unexpected was an emotional muscle I needed to bulk up!

Communication was crazy: often I thought I was being clear about what I wanted, but instead ended up frustrated.

On a day-to-day basis, if I’m being honest, I was often more frustrated than delighted. However, upon looking back, it was a tremendously rewarding and fun experience.

In the end, it pushed me WAY past my comfort zone, helped me discover how much I am truly capable of, and showed me just how much freedom I truly have.

Now, how does this relate to owning a business? This is the surprise ending.

Go back to the bolded sentence at the beginning and replace it with, “Owning your own business instead of working for someone else…” Then re-read my list of realizations and I think you’ll see the parallels.

;- )

Maybe it’s time for you to make a few comfort-zone-stretching, daring moves of your own!

Frequently Asked Questions about Speaking for Free
by Mary Cravets, Client Generation Expert

1. Doesn’t speaking for free devalue my expertise?

   

Not when you are intentional about your strategy. I’ve been speaking for free for over 7 years and am now a nationally recognized expert, highly appreciated for my willingness to show up and give my time. In no way does this feel like I am devaluing my expertise… especially because every year for the last four years I’ve generated over 6 figures in revenue from unpaid speaking.

I’ve seen a lot of people decide they absolutely must get paid upfront for speaking, and it often holds them back. They get intimidated by the highly competitive space, which results in getting no experience and generating no revenue. They stay safely (but frustratedly) in their comfort zone.

I don’t know if it’s self-sabotage or they heard an expert say you have to get paid in order to be legit, but I do know that there is a solid way to make an impact and income through unpaid speaking.

I’ve done it. My clients have done it. It just means being wicked strategic and totally committed to making an impact… even if it takes you WAY outside your comfort zone. I share solid tools about how to make this leap this in my upcoming webinar.

2. How do I make money speaking for free?
Let me start with a fundamental understanding: you must receive

compensation in exchange for sharing your expertise. Otherwise, you are volunteering your time. Which is absolutely fine, IF you are not looking for speaking to be a profitable strategy in your business.

In a paid speaking engagement, you are compensated with money.

For an unpaid engagement, fair compensation is the opportunity to invite the audience to work with your further. The way you make money from unpaid speaking is simply from generating new business, usually in the form of new clients.

I go more deeply into how to do this in my upcoming webinar, Generate More Clients from Unpaid Speaking Gigs.

3. When should I NOT take an unpaid gig?

Since your compensation is the opportunity to invite the audience to work with you further, don’t take gigs when:

The audience doesn’t contain your ideal client. Since your presentation is about offering value as opposed to a sales pitch to convince people of something, if an unpaid gig doesn’t contain your ideal client, you have no opportunity for compensation.

The group wants you to change your talk topic or title. Your talk must be designed to attract your ideal clients. When you change your talk topic or title, it dilutes your strategy of speaking to what is important to your ideal client, which reduces your chances of attracting clients to the audience and to your offer.

The group doesn’t allow you to make an offer. If you cannot take a minute or two to introduce your services and how people can take the next step if they are interested, you are unlikely to generate clients. Remember: you must have the opportunity to receive compensation, and not being able to make an offer shuts the door to that opportunity.

4. So… does that mean the presentation is more like a teaser where I don’t give a lot of information just so I can make a sales pitch?

Absolutely not! (takes a deep breath…) If there’s one thing that drives me crazy, it’s a talk that is designed simply to showcase a speaker’s agenda for the purposes of selling. It’s so obvious and clumsy and inauthentic. When I see speakers go this route, I just cringe and wish I could sit down with them and show them a better way.

When you speak for free, set the goal of providing value to the audience whether or not they choose to work with you further. Got that?

SIDE NOTE: my top value is Impact. I absolutely could not show up in front of an audience and not provide transformation. And I wouldn’t expect you to, either. It’s not how we’re built!

When you speak for free, you have to connect with your audience, build rapport, provide solid value, create curiosity and desire, and invite them to work with you further. It’s a lot to do in one talk, so it’s critically important that you don’t try to wing it.

Join my webinar, Generate More Clients from Unpaid Speaking Gigs and I’ll teach you what to do before, during and after an unpaid speaking gig so you can grow your business!

I’ve been going through some pretty intense growing pains. In business, even though growth is the goal, the “pain” of it is very real.

I was expressing my frustrations and asking for support from my entrepreneur friends, and one of them sent me the video I’m sharing here.

It shook me out of my aggravation and provided a COMPLETE perspective shift.

I hope you enjoy it too!