Mindset

Better Results from 3 Hip-hop Inspired Questions

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I really, really want to be a great hip hop dancer.

I want to look cool. I want to be edgy and badass. I want to wow you and show you that this 48-year-old can really get DOWN with her bad self.

So I took a class or two and then learned a routine on YouTube. Then learned another routine on YouTube… and guess what?

I look completely dorky.

WHAT!? After all this work I don’t look like Matt Steffanina, Jabbawockeez or The Royal Family?

Don’t laugh, but I was seriously aggravated by this. I went into full-on whiny baby mode, “This is stupid. Why can’t I do this? I look like an idiot. But I’m trying! And I’m working so hard at this…”

Which is where I had to stop myself.

Really? I was working SO hard at this? Let’s review…

2018: take 3 break dancing classes, then practice one dance routine for 6 weeks.

Fast forward to mid-2019: remember – hey I want to be a hip-hop superstar… I’ll learn another routine. Spend 20 minutes on it and realize I look ridiculous.

I invested almost nothing into my burgeoning hip-hop career and expected to be a Fly Girl?

How. Embarrassing.

Now let me tell you, taking an honest look in the mirror about this wasn’t fun and it REALLY wasn’t pretty, but here’s the point of this story: to change your results, you’ve got to start by honestly evaluating the quantity and quality of your efforts.

Because what you imagine is happening, and what is actually happening can be two very different things.

In my mind, I imagined I was practicing hip-hop non-stop. After all, I watched HHI (Hip-Hop International) videos all the time. I’d even posted one of my breakdancing classes on Facebook, so… obviously I was working hard at it.

But the reality? Not so much.

To become exceptionally good at hip-hop – or anything in life – you’ve got to start by getting honest about the work that needs to be done.

Take a moment and take a look at any area of your business or your life where you’re not getting results and ask yourself:

1. How long has this been going on?
2. What is the work that needs to be done to change this?
3. Am I willing to do what it takes to get different results?

As for my hip-hop career? I got to question #3 and am undecided.

I’ll keep you posted.

Email me if you’d like better results from your client generation efforts. I’ll get you details about upcoming programs!

Do you excel at limiting yourself?

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Please welcome Adam Cravets as my guest blogger.

Are you a champion at limiting yourself? What’s your threshold?

Would you be able to look yourself in the mirror if you said “I can’t complete my day because I can’t find a pen to write my to-do list with?”

Here’s another excuse: “I can’t complete my day because I can’t find an empty piece of paper around the house to write my to-do list on?”

Or “I can’t go to work because I can’t find my car keys?”

Maybe its “I can’t work because I have a headache and can’t find an aspirin?”

Even if “I can’t pay my rent because I can’t find a job?”

Or the classic “I can’t find a job because my internet connection is down today?”

What about “I can’t earn money because I’m too busy raising my kids?”

And finally “I can’t help a friend because I’m so busy with all this stuff?”

Which of the above excuses are crap? Which ones are real excuses?

I suggest that the only ones that are real are…NONE OF THEM.

There are people with 2 jobs who also volunteer at their favorite charity, hang out with friends, help someone in need and get to the gym every day.

There are people with newborn twins growing their business and spending quality time with friends and reading a novel.

There are people raised in abject poverty who run up tens of thousands of dollars in loans to put themselves through college then start businesses or get jobs that make them rich and able to pay off their loans.

Time is not the issue. Money is not the issue.

The issue is the simple act of doing.

What are you willing to do? How often are you too busy to complete your to-do list but somehow spent 2 hours that day on Facebook? Is there a self help book sitting on your night stand unread because you are too busy watching a movie every night? Is there a money opportunity that requires investment but you are too scared to make the investment in yourself or your future?

Your subconscious is phenomenal at keeping you exactly where you are. It takes active effort to break out of your inertia (read “comfort zone”) and move forward towards all that you want.

My advice? Go fourth and DO!

P.S. I was inspired to write this post by Jen Sincero’s amazing book “You are a Badass at Making Money”.

You can get it too by clicking on the book image – I think you’ll love it and it may just change your mindset!

P.P.S. That link is an affiliate link which means there’s a small commission if you purchase the book, but the great news is that this won’t cost you a single cent more.

See what a Badass at Making Money you are already?

Don’t make an excuse…get the book!

 

When You Find Yourself in a Lull…

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I’ve gotten sloppy in my business. Embarrassing but true.

This realization hit me while listening to my favorite book “The Strangest Secret” by Earl Nightingale. Here’s what I heard:

“Prosperity, you know, is founded on the law of mutual exchange. Any person who contributes to prosperity must prosper, in turn, himself. Sometimes the return will not come from those you serve, but it must come to you from someplace…”

I used to be relentless in my contributions to my community’s prosperity.

Writing blogs to inspire and equip.

Offering trainings.

Speaking for groups.

Lately? Not so much.

I took my eye off the ball.

And, no surprise, now I’m experiencing a lull in my business. (if you can relate, don’t worry – just recommit!)

Thank you, Earl, for the wake-up call!

I’m back.

I’m in your corner.

Stay tuned…

What should you guarantee in your marketing?

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Do you ever stop to ask yourself what promises your marketing message is making to your clients?

This week in my Facebook live, I talked about possibilities vs. guarantees in marketing.

The fact is, not every client will experience great results as there are many factors that figure into success.

However……

If you have a lot of confidence in what you do, more often than not….well, click on the image to see more!

I hope you enjoy the full video.

Reminder From an “Angel”

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I’ll admit it, I was intimidated. I was speaking at an international business summit, and the two speakers before me were and angel investor and a bank executive.

And my topic? How to create a great 30-second introduction.

I felt small.

Nervous.

Out of my league.

And then the angel investor shared one of her keys to success.

She said, “No matter what size your business is, when things feel overwhelming and complicated, go back to the fundamentals.”

My confidence returned as I heard these words, reminded of the value of what I teach.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed, go back to the basics.

Master the fundamentals. Take action. Evaluate. Repeat.

What Do Black Socks Have to Do With Success?

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I stared at my feet and sighed. I was at the gym, feeling virtuous for squeezing in a workout and then, THIS happens.

I forgot white socks (horrors!), and now I had a choice to make.

Option 1: Work out and keep my commitment to myself to exercise each day, but look a bit dorky wearing the black socks only meant to be worn bumming around the house or discreetly hidden under boots.

Option 2: Sigh and go home. Outwardly disappointed about missing my workout, but inwardly doing a little happy dance for having come up with a great little excuse to not get sweaty.

I looked down at my feet and burst out laughing in the middle of the ladies’ locker room, because business owners face this kind of thing nearly every day.

Now pay attention to this next part because you’re going to be able to use this for yourself over and over again…

Looking at each option in turn I asked myself, “Is this worth it?”

Do I go out there and to do that I know is good for me: put in the time and effort, get uncomfortable, put myself out there and be willing to look foolish?
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Do I let a silly little excuse derail my commitment?

I can proudly share with you that I chose option number one. To my utter amazement, no one laughed and pointed at my socks.

Author’s Note
The intended moral of the story here is pretty obvious: don’t let little excuses derail your important commitments.

However, when relating this to my hubby and business partner Adam, he introduced another dimension when he asked, “What exactly is wrong with black socks? Where is it written that you have to wear white socks?”

Thanks to Adam, we have a secondary moral: notice the assumptions you’re making and challenge them!