Do you get a “queasy feeling of being obnoxious” (my client’s words) when thinking about promoting yourself or asking for big money?
You’re not alone. In a recent Facebook live, I explored why this is and how to work around it.
So why do we hold ourselves back? There are some very good and understandable reasons. When you hold yourself back, you:
- Avoid rejection
- Prevent yourself from being called salesy, pushy or greedy
- Save yourself from failing
- Avoid looking foolish
All of these are tough fears to work through, but with the rewards being so great – income, impact, influence, satisfaction – why are the potential rewards not motivating enough to change?
I have no idea… and frankly I don’t think “why” is what’s most important.
Getting past the fear is what is most important.
Let’s skip analyzing WHY and instead just get to the next level faster, shall we?
It’s not (all) about you. Instead of thinking that going big is about you, shift to the perspective that it’s more about being a champion for your prospective clients and THEIR untapped potential. If you aren’t making bold offers to future clients, you are holding them back.
Stop looking for approval. People who don’t resonate with your message or simply don’t like you can’t be your priority. Don’t sacrifice the people who DO need you by wasting time trying to make the haters happy.
Create big-ticket, big transformation offerings. Asking others to step up and invest in their own greatness will deepen your confidence in your own greatness.
Consider future clients your accountability partners. Make a commitment to go big for them and make it unacceptable to let them down by playing small.
Accept imperfection. When consistently put yourself out there, you may screw up. If you wait for perfection, you will be waiting a long time for your moment. I have a 3rd degree black belt in this area. I submit as evidence my recent Facebook Live video.
Be willing to be accused of all of your fears. WHOA. That’s a bold step, isn’t it? Do it anyway so you can help those who really need you!
Now it’s your move, my friend. What’s your next step? How will that impact your world?